How can I forgive husbands meth addiction & affairs?

Lady Snark
#1. June 15th, 2009, at 8:56 AM.

Sex in exchange for drugs is not unheard of, so yes, it is possible. People battling, or even succumbing to, an addiction are not themselves. My sympathy to you. This will not be easy. I hope that your love will carry you thru this.

Martin
#2. June 17th, 2009, at 2:00 PM.

You need to help your husband with his addiction asap. He needs to know he has your support and that you are there for him. The affairs came probably from his addiction so once it’s gone he will be back on truck with only you.

Just support him now as he needs it a lot.

Brandi
#3. June 18th, 2009, at 10:12 PM.

Me and my husband did meth for 3 years. We have been clean for 5 and I can tell you that this drug changes you while you are on it. Even on the down times when you are not high you are still the same person that you are when you are on it. Me and my husband never cheated on each other during that 3 years however I can tell you that we did things that I cringe to think about now. This drug makes you very “sexual”, that is not the best way to expalin it but it’s the only word that comes to mind. You want to be touched, kissed, talk, it makes you feel great but strange at the same time. I cannot say that it’s a good excuse that he did these things to you while on drugs but I do agree with your family. Drugs of all kinds make you do and feel things that are out of your control.

It’s great that he is getting help but I promise you that it will take more then 30days. Me and my husband was able to walk away from this drug only because we ran out of money and I found out that I was 5 weeks pregnat. Scared the day light out of us. If you love him and want to save this then have faith. Email me if you want to.

Insert Clever Name Here
#4. June 22nd, 2009, at 1:31 AM.

I wouldnt care what the reason was for him cheating, he still did it and thats all that matters.

Do yourself a favor and leave him.

bored
#5. June 22nd, 2009, at 2:16 PM.

no. my husband had this ‘problem’ while we were dating and didn’t sleep around. it does some things to you but doesnt default to unfaithful, thats just an excuse. im going out on a limb to say that maybe he cheated because those girls would do drugs with him and not you, he seems to be living two lives seeing that you didnt know. i really dont understand how you could not know. or he’s just player. wow. rehab will do nothing for him (its a revolving door) unless he really wants to quit. did he admit himself cuz he got caught with his pants down or cuz he wants to stop? im not saying he cant quit, my husband did without the rehab. personally i think rehab is a JOKE.

Sunshine
#6. June 22nd, 2009, at 7:30 PM.

Please trust me, you are 100% better without him in your life.

I know what I’m talking about. Don’t worry about the reasons behind why he cheated. File for divorce immediately and don’t give him another chance…please believe me, if you take him back, you are making the worst mistake you have ever made in your life, and you’ll regret it.

And please go get tested for all STDs.

You will -not ever- have a safe, calm, peaceful, secure, sheltered life, as long as he is involved with you.

lone55
#7. June 24th, 2009, at 9:45 AM.

how can u forgive?
you dnt need to forgive him.

someone is there for you,
you dont meet thm(or him) bcos you are with your husband.

his family needs you to take care of him bcos they cant n they dnt want to.
they may be using you. his family would make you feel bad leaving him bt please leave him n his family.

But Inside I’m Screaming
#8. June 27th, 2009, at 6:44 PM.

I was in the same situation, only my husband’s drug of choice was coke. As painful as it is, I’ve chosen to divorce him. He has made no effort to help himself despite the fact I’ve done everything I can for him. He has to want to change too.

Manda
#9. June 29th, 2009, at 7:29 AM.

Leave him. It’s over for you two. You need to help yourself get over this and move on to someone who won’t do this to you. 3rd time and you’ll be the fool hun.